Welcome To Chandler's Page
Remembering
Go ahead and mention my child,
The one that died, you know.
Don't worry about hurting me further.
The depth of my pain doesn't show.
Don't worry about making me cry.
I'm already crying inside.
Help me to heal by releasing the tears that I try to hide.
I'm hurt when you just keep silent,
Pretending he didn't exist.
I'd rather you mention my child,
Knowing that he has been missed.
You asked me how I was doing.
I say "pretty good" or "fine".
But healing is something ongoingI feel it will take a lifetime.
~ Elizabeth Dent ~
Don't ... Author Unknown
Don't tell me "things happen for a reason."
Don't tell me "he's better off."
Don't tell me to "keep busy" and "move on."
Don't tell me that you "know how I feel."
Don't tell me that it was "too hard" for YOU to talk to ME about the death of MY baby boy.
Don't tell me that YOU feel "uncomfortable" looking at his picture or calling me on his birthday.
Don't tell me "to try again."
Don't SAY anything to try to make me feel better.
Hug me,
Listen to me,
Sit quietly with me,
Let me cry,
Cry With me ,
Smile when you look at his picture,
Help me plant a tree in his memory,
Allow me to sit in the rocking chair in the nursery.
Light a candle.
Release a balloon.
Walk with me on my journey.
Remember him forever.
Inspiration from love
Its been several months since we have lost Chandler and i have battled with how to tribute my triumphant little boy. I couldn't find the right tool that would do justice in honoring his presence. My biggest fear from losing Chandler, is losing his memory. Gone, but never forgotten. My husband tells me that Chandler's memory lives through us, so tell the world about him... so now i will share Chandler's story with you.
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